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Home-Alone America: Why Today's Kids Are Overmedicated, Overweight, and More Troubled Than Ever Before ePub download

by Mary Eberstadt

  • Author: Mary Eberstadt
  • ISBN: 1595230157
  • ISBN13: 978-1595230157
  • ePub: 1376 kb | FB2: 1923 kb
  • Language: English
  • Category: Social Sciences
  • Publisher: Sentinel Trade (September 6, 2005)
  • Pages: 218
  • Rating: 4.4/5
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Home-alone America: Hidden toll of day care, behavioral drugs, and other parent substitutes

Home-alone America: Hidden toll of day care, behavioral drugs, and other parent substitutes. Varying Form of Title: Hidden toll of day care, behavioral drugs, and other parent substitutes. Publication, Distribution, et. New York Formatted Contents Note: The real trouble with day care The furious child problem Why Dick and Jane are fat The mental health catastrophe Wonder drugs and double standards "Ozzie and Harriet, come back!" : the primal scream of teenage music The ravages of "responsible" teenage sex Specialty boarding schools, tough love or ultimate outsourcing?

book by Mary Eberstadt. Why are there so many troubled kids these days, diagnosed with learning disabilities or behavioral problems?

book by Mary Eberstadt.

Why Today's Kids Are Overmedicated, Overweight, and More Troubled Than Ever Before. Published September 6, 2005 by Sentinel Trade.

In Home-Alone America, scholar Mary Eberstadt offers an answer that’s widely suspected but too politically .

In Home-Alone America, scholar Mary Eberstadt offers an answer that’s widely suspected but too politically incorrect to say out loud. A few decades ago, most children came home from school to a mother who monitored their diets, prevented sexual activity or delinquency by her mere presence, and provided a basic emotional safety net. Most children also lived with their biological father. Eberstadt offers hard data proving that absent parents are the common denominator of many recent epidemics, including obesity, STDs, mental health problems of all kinds, and the increased use of psychiatric medication by even very young children.

Home-Alone America: Why Today's Kids Are Overmedicated, Overweight, And More Troubled Than Ever Before by Mary Eberstadt.

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Home-Alone America: The Hidden Toll of Day Care, Behavioral Drugs, and Other Parent Substitutes. I only wish that I and many driven career women of my early feminist generation had read this essential guide before we sacrificed Being There to proving ourselves in a man’s world. -Gail Sheehy, author of Passages and DARING: My Passages Being There is a terrific and very timely book that is much needed as our country is dealing with an epidemic of emotionally troubled children, adolescents, and mothers.

But today, most mothers work outside the home and many fathers are unmarried or divorced, often living far away

But today, most mothers work outside the home and many fathers are unmarried or divorced, often living far away. As a result, too many kids now feel like just another chore to be outsourced – dropped off at daycare, handed over to a nanny, plopped in front of a TV or the Internet.

Argues that modern divorce rates, career-oriented families, and unhealthy parenting practices are contributing to such childhood problems as obesity, risky sexual behaviors, and mental illness, drawing on a range of medical and social science literature, as well as popular culture, to identify a need for more active parent participation in child care. Reprint. 35,000 first printing.
This hard hitting no apologies book examines some of the most destructive child rearing practices in the United States. This book addresses "the other side" of daycare- the side that many American parents refuse to acknowledege.
Mary Eberstadt is a senior fellow at the Ethics and Public Policy Center; she has also written books such as How the West Really Lost God: A New Theory of Secularization,Adam and Eve After the Pill: Paradoxes of the Sexual Revolution,Why I Turned Right: Leading Baby Boom Conservatives Chronicle Their Political Journeys, etc. [NOTE: page numbers below refer to the 218-page paperback edition.]

She wrote in the Preface to this 2004 book, “[This book is] an honest attempt to address an outstanding social puzzle of our time. On the one hand, the children and teenagers of today’s advanced societies … are materially better off than ever before. Yet on the other hand, those same children and teenagers share acute problems that either did not exist before, or did not exist in anything like today’s proportions… for some significant number of today’s kids, life is actually experienced as worse---meaning risker, sadder, and more problematic---than it was for their parents’ generation. This book … argues that these troubles are in large measure the unintended fallout of a world in which children are more separated from their families, including but not limited to their parents, than they used to be.” (Pg. x-xi)

She said in the Introduction, “Of all the explosive subjects in America today, none is … as surrounded by rhetorical land mines, as the question of whether and just how much children need their parents---especially their mothers… This book challenges that social prohibition. It strives to shed light on one of the fundamental changes of our time: the ongoing, massive, and historically unprecedented experiment in family-child separation in which the United States and most other advanced societies are now engaged.” (Pg. xv)

The book examines “two closely related phenomena: the explosion of psychiatric and behavioral problems among children of all ages, and the simultaneous explosion of the medications used to treat these troubled kids. I argue in part… that perhaps some juveniles are sadder and sicker and angrier today because changes in family life have given them more to be sadder and sicker and angrier ABOUT… at least some of those objectionable behaviors and attitudes might be legitimate emotional responses to the disappearance from many kids’ lives of loving, protective adults.” (Pg. xiii)

She observes, “From the point of view of a great many adults, the trade-offs among contemporary adult freedoms, and particularly the gains made by women in the paid marketplace, are definitely worth it from the point of view of those free to choose. Whether they are also worth it from another perspective---that of the children and adolescents left behind by the adult exodus into freedom---has not yet been answered… This book seeks to open that question… It is an effort to ask what the empirical and extra-empirical record shows so far about this relatively new and unknown world in which many parents, children, and siblings spend many or most of their waking hours apart. The essence of home-alone American is just this: Over the past few decades, more and more children have spent considerably less time in the company of their parents or other relatives, and numerous fundamental measures of their well-being have simultaneously gone into … scandalous decline. It is the argument of this book that the connection between those two facts cannot possibly be dismissed as coincidence.” (Pg. xxii)

She also explains her own personal situation: “I am an at-home mother of four… and I haven’t had a ‘real’ office in more than twelve years. Until very recently motherhood meant that I did very little writing apart from the occasional essay or review. Today things are different. Three of my children are in school all day long and the youngest is on the verge of it, so there is more time for reading and writing than there has been for years. I have a part-time paid babysitter who is upstairs with my youngest while I’m down, a husband who often works at home, and older children who also help out.” (Pg. xix)

She states, “We are generally agreed… that extreme deprivation can make for extreme depravity… that seemingly obvious proposition … is remarkable because it contradicts something that a generation of certain social scientists and advocates has ferociously denied” the possibility of a causal connection between parental absence and undesirable child behavior… it raises this significant corollary: If feral behavior at the extreme seems rooted in extreme parental absence, it may be possible that feral behavior of other kinds is also rooted in less extreme but nonetheless significant parental absence.” (Pg. 27)

She states, “Today’s child fat problem is largely the result of adults not being there to supervise what the kids eat… Children are eating more because they are less likely to be around anyone who tells them that it is a bad idea. Who is more likely to get fat, the child who comes home to a mother who tells him to wait for dinner or the child in an after-school program or empty house who has access for several hours to snack trays, fast food, and bulging cupboards and refrigerators?” (Pg. 54)

She argues, “All those symptomatic children and adolescents … might actually have authentic REASONS for doing what they do… they might be responding rationally to arrangements that look irrational, wrong, or stressful from their point of view… What if at least some of what is being diagnosed … is not mental defect, neurochemical short circuits, and the rest, but… the normal reactions of youngsters to the arguably inhuman rhythms of their days?.. What if, in sum, some significant degree of the surliness and disaffection now being medicalized is a legitimate emotional response to the disappearance from children’s lives of protecting related adults?” (Pg. 78)

She also points out, “The very contraceptives that have made the teenage birth rate go down have also made casual sex easier than ever, this making the STD rate simultaneously go up.” (Pg. 131)

She concludes, “teachers across the country tell us … that they are seeing more behavioral problems with children than they used to... Something has indeed run amok in the American experiment with separationism… We say ‘children are resilient,’ but what we mean is that we needn’t worry about them as much as we ought. We say ‘it takes a village to raise a child,’ ignoring the fact that in any real village that child has other supporting adults, many of them related to him… in addition to his mother and father, not instead of them. We say ‘teenagers are rebellious,’ but what we mean is that there must be some hardwired, parent-exonerating explanation for not seeing our own adolescent minus a headset or away from a computer for several weeks. We’re very good at taking a grain of anything… and growing from it some explanation that adults can hide behind. We say, ‘Look there! Look there!’ What we mean is, ‘Look anywhere but here.’ That is the standard ruling our home-alone world, and it is past due for a serious realignment.” (Pg. 170)

In the Epilogue, she says, “just as widespread parental ABSENCE reverberates to create the kind of large problems described in this book, so would more parental PRESENCE on the child and adolescent scene ameliorate some of the fallout… More adults present and attending to children might just increase adult empathy and sensitivity to the wise range of what is normal for various age groups. That enhanced adult experience might in turn reduce some of the need to pathologize and mediate children for their behavior---again, even if not all parents are able to participate in redrawing the lines.” (Pg. 177)

Eberstadt’s arguments might have benefited from more statistical comparisons between children of “at-home” parents and children of working parents; she also might have dealt more with the fact that ADULTS are themselves “overmedicated,” obese, etc. But hers is a heartfelt and challenging argument, that will be of considerable interest to anyone concerning about the situation of modern children.
This book is a wake- up call to America. It makes a very strong case for the conception that the increasingly troubled state of American children is connected to parental absence from the home. The increase in recent years in rates of teenage suicide, mental health problems, childhood sexual abuse, alcoholism, drug- abuse, obesity Eberstadt connects with the fact that America's children and young people are more and more left alone, and unsupervised.
She points to two major factors which have led to more and more single- parent families, the first is the historically high- rate of divorce and the increasing rate of illegitimacy. But is not only in the single - parent families but in the homes in which there are two working parents in which absenteeism from the family has increased. She points out that today seven out of ten mothers work outside the home. And that half of them would continue to do this even if they did not need the money. She says that what benefits the parents as individuals might not necessarily be of benefit to the children. And she points too to a widespread effort to conceal the unpleasant conclusion that a working parent, and especially a working parent may do more harm for the children than the good. She in this regard points to evidence which suggests that the families which do have a parent at home for most of the time have less disturbed and problematic children than those who do not. She cites Francis Fukuyama who says that one reason Americans from Asian families do so well in education is that the mothers of these families devote themselves more to home and children.
This is an important and illuminating wake- up call to America.
Mary Eberstadt approaches the common belief that absent parents (either through divorce or the "necessity" of both parents working outside the home) are acceptable because 'kids are resilient.'

She systematically dissects the various arguments, both pro and con, and demonstrates the far-reaching effects on kids. Definitely an eye-opening book.

While some of the suggestions offered are mere theory (e.g., the hypothesis that young girls' fertility cycles are affected by non-related males living in the household, which may contribute to earlier sexual experimentation), it is research worth reading.
This is a must-read for all parents. It documents what we all thought all along but were too afraid to say: mothers desperately need to nurture their children at home. Their influence, their love is irreplaceable. Our nation is now reaping the harvest of mothers who have "turned off their hearts" to work long hours away from their helpless little ones. The meteoric rise in substance abuse, obesity, depression, anxiety and a host of other social ills can be largely attributed to the breakdown of the family: missing Dads (who play an absolutley critical role in a child's healthy development) and especially moms. The "hand that rocks the cradle" really does "rule the world". We need Dads to help support their wives in nurturing their children at home. The author's research is vast and well documented. This is a brave and essential book for parents and policy makers alike.
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